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Check out my interview on @mint about personal finance

I was elated when Mint.com contacted me for an interview about tackling personal finance. Check out the article and leave a comment or your questions -> https://www.mint.com/personal-finance-interviews/expert-interview-with-lakesha-womack-on-personal-finance-for-mint/

Thanks!

*Don’t forget to order your copy of My Money Matters on amazon.com today!

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10 Lessons Learned While Dating in My 30s

As scary as it is to admit that I am knocking on the door of the big 4-0, I am starting to realize that dating now versus my 20’s is a totally different ball game.  And this game… Uggghhhh… So, here are ten things that I have learned about dating and about myself:

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  1. Don’t be afraid to compromise but be clear about what you are compromising.  I have found myself in some situations where I have been called hard, tough, uncompromising, etc but often the issues that I am being called to compromise on – aren’t really in my best interest or the best interest of the “relationship”.  They usually seem to be beneficial to the other person. #iPass 
  2. God is not going to bless me with some one else’s husband.  I saw that posted by a friend, Makasha Dorsey, and it really struck a cord with me because I have met several married men who swear their marriage is in shambles, they aren’t happy, etc but the fact is – they go home to their wife every night.  Why should I be someone’s side chick?  Why should I want to settle?  How could I believe God would bless that?  If a guy really wants to be with you and he’s married, give him time to fix that situation and then get back with you.  You don’t want a man to leave his wife for you because chances are, he will leave you for someone else.  His integrity should cause him to want to do the right thing.
  3. Unpack your own bags.  I read a post that said something along the lines of we all have baggage, find someone who cares enough to help you unpack.  I totally disagree.  Work on yourself so that you can be open and free for the person who is interested in you.  Why put them through the strife of fixing the mess someone else created?
  4. If you can’t trust him/her, then you shouldn’t be dating the person.  Plain and simple.  If you can’t trust the words that come from the person’s mouth to match their actions, you are going to have serious problems.  If you say you’re going to do something, do it.  Ain’t no body got time to check you on every promise you make.  Either quit over promising and under delivering or step up and be who you say you are.
  5. Dating is the time to get to know a person before you make a commitment.  I can’t tell you how many “dates” I’ve been on where the other person thought we were in a relationship after the first date.  To me, the interview process is just getting started.  I need to know some things before I commit my future to you.  I have questions.  I need to see some consistency.  
  6. Be selective about who you share your dating with.  I don’t publicly date (meaning I don’t post pics on social media of the guys I go out with) because I don’t want everyone in my business sharing their two cents but if I find myself becoming interested, I’m not afraid to pull out my detective kit and do a little background checking among some mutual friends.  But keep negative, unhappy people far away from your potential happiness.
  7. Sex is not the glue that holds a relationship together.  Sex is like the icing on the cake, if its good (lol) but the glue – the butter in the cake – should be your ability to communicate with each other.  Find someone that you can talk about anything with, someone that you can trust with your past experiences and future dreams.  If you always feel like you’re having two different conversations, that the person isn’t hearing you; that’s a problem because you need more than an O to keep you coming home every night.  
  8. Don’t date potential.  Date someone based on who they are TODAY because they may never become the person that they are planning to become.  You need to be able to love them exactly as they are and if things get better – consider it a bonus.
  9. Relationships are a two way street.  Just because you’re interested doesn’t mean the other person feels the same way.  Be clear about what you want and be open to hearing whether the other person feels the same way.  Don’t get mad if they don’t and don’t pretend that they didn’t say what they just said if they said it.
  10. If he’s interested, you will know.  The best advice that I can give any woman is to let a man be a man and if he’s interested, he will let you know.  Men are pretty straight forward creatures and when they want something, they usually go for it and you don’t have to wonder.  They may have some questionable methods but for the most part, a man who invests his time into you is probably interested.  If he actually asks questions and wants to get to know you, he’s definitely interested.  If his idea of seeing you or spending time with you only happens when sex is involved, cut your loses because he isn’t really interested.  If he thinks spending money or giving you money should be enough, he’s definitely not interested and you shouldn’t settle for being a modern day prostitute.

You may not agree with the lessons that I’ve learned so feel free to share yours…

[Late] Breaking News: Womack joins Birmingham Business Resource Center

I almost forgot to share the latest news with my blogger family…

The Birmingham Business Resource Center announces LaKesha Womack of Womack Consulting Group as their newest associate.  LaKesha has almost fifteen years of consulting experience in a variety of industries including manufacturing, publishing, technology, retail services, financial services and transportation. Her firm specializes in business development, brand management, not for profit organization and political strategy services. Womack, a Vanderbilt graduate, recently relocated to Birmingham to attend Beeson Divinity School at Samford University.

BBRC is looking forward to working with Womack Consulting Group to continue providing training, lending and advocacy programs that assist entrepreneurs interested in increasing their capacity, their access to capital and their customer base.

For more information about Womack Consulting Group, visit http://WomackCG.com

For more information about the Birmingham Business Resource Center, visit http://bbrc.biz

Interview with Alabama Author Joi Miner

I love to see people living their dreams so when Joi contacted me about her new book, I was beyond thrilled to feature her on the blog.  Check out this interview and take a minute to order her new book – Vices.

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1.  When did you know that you were destined to be a writer?

I have always loved to write, but I think I realized I was meant to do more with my writing when I started to get paid to write poems for my classmates in middle school and high school. When I was a Senior at Jefferson Davis High School, in Montgomery, my creative writing teacher tried to get me suspended for plagiarism, because she said my writing was too good to have been written by a high school senior. I figured that could have gone one of two ways, I could have taken it as an insult and never written again or I could have, as I did, take it as a compliment and use it as motivation. I dedicated my first poetry collection to her.

2. Tell us a little about Vices?

Vices is an erotic drama. The main character, Bonnie Jones, takes you along on her journey to rediscovering herself after leaving an abusive marriage. You get to see her get into some very interesting fixes, get her heart broken, and find herself massaging away the pain and case of the lonelies with her vice of choice, sex.

Vices is what I like to call “autobiographical fiction.” It’s my life with a little bit extra thrown into it. It’s a very raw story, but I feel like it’s relatable. We all have been where Bonnie is or know someone who has.

It’s my first novel and was picked up for publication by Nayberry Publications. It’s set to be released on October 31st

3. Now tell us something personal about you. What is your favorite color?

Blue. When I was in kindergarten, they told me that pink was for girls and blue was for boys. But, I liked blue. I’ve made it my business since then to wear as much blue as possible.

4. Do you write full-time or do you have another profession?

I wish I was a full-time writer. For the last two years, I have been employed with Sykes powered by Alpine Access as a full-time work at home Customer Care Professional. I am also a full-time English/Creative Writing student at Southern New Hampshire University Online in my Senior Year (Class of 2015. Woohoo!). As if that weren’t enough, I am of this year, my 33rd birthday. *Gasp I just told you my age* Owner and Co-Founder of a small for-profit company, Poetic Advisory, LLC.

5. What was the best advice you have received as a writer?

The best writing advice that I have ever received was to never take writing advice. Lol.  Everyone is different. No one can tell you how to be your most original self. There are even debates about the basic writing techniques, so you need to find and do what works best for you.

Find Joi Miner on her personal website: http://www.joiminer.com

And on Social Media:

Vices will be available on Amazon, Joiminer.com and NayberryPublications.com.

Synopsis

vices5Everyone wanted a piece of Bonnie, but no one could… until Bonnie was at peace with herself.  Fresh out of an abusive marriage, 25-year-old Bonnie Jones is on a mission to recapture the youth her ex-husband, Keith, stole from her. With her young daughter, Zion in tow, she has to rebuild her life from the ground up. She finds solace in her poetry journal, cuddling with Zi, and the ability to leave her pain on the stage at the weekly open mic poetry readings.  When she has an itch she needs scratched or longs for companionship, she has her choice of partners to help soothe her suffering. Her one condition: they don’t spend the night. After Bonnie falls asleep, her demons have their way with her. Eventually, they begin to invade her waking hours and no amount of writing, sex, or time with Zion can keep her from having to face them.

Book information:

Vices, The debut novel by Alabama Author Joi Miner

Page Count: 320

Genre: Erotic Drama

Publisher: Nayberry Publications

Release date: October 31, 2014

Preorders available: September 24, 2014

Paperback Preorder Link:

Digital Preorder Link: http://www.nayberrypublications.com/apps/webstore/products/show/5260316

This business rocks… N’Sight Photography (@NSightPhoto)

People who really know me, know that I don’t like taking pictures.  Some think its because I’m too critical of my self, which is probably true, but the fact remains, I don’t take pictures and when I do, I’m reluctant to post them online.

A few years ago, a friend got married and I was in love with her wedding pictures.  I started following the photographer and knew that when my budget would allow, he had to be the man behind the camera.

One of my goals for this year was to begin rebranding my business.  I knew it was time to step up the images and it was a no brainer to call Neville Simpson, Owner/Photographer with N’Sight Photography.

He was so easy to work with!  Although some of the poses felt awkward, I trusted him because his images are like art.  He took his time to set up each pose, paying attention to what was behind me, beside me, how my hands, head and feet were positioned. In some shots, I would just hold my breath smiling until he told me I could move again.  I had high hopes for these pictures because I didn’t want to go through this ordeal again.

Fast forward about two weeks and I get the email that I had been waiting for… the proofs were ready to view.  I held my breath, once again, as I clicked through to get to the images.  They were good.  I was happy.

Fast forward another week… I wake up and my cell phone is going crazy!  I have Facebook alerts and inbox messages sending my phone into an early morning frenzy!  Neville had posted the pictures to an album and everyone loved them.  I am so appreciative to him for the hours he spent on the location, the shoot and the editing.  I wanted to channel a little bit of Olivia Pope’s style, Taraji Henson’s playfulness and Michelle Obama’s poise.  I feel pretty confident that he pulled that off.

If you need a photographer, contact Neville Simpson. He is an award winning professional who travels all over the world producing art through photography.

P.S.

Don’t forget to tell him that I sent you ;)

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Dresses by Tahari.  Shoes from ShoeDazzle.

Side Chick Consulting

Occasionally when looking at the stats on this site, I notice a spike in the site views.  Being curious, I go and check to see what my wonderful readers are searching for and what they love doesnt hurtare reading.

Imagine my surprise to find that on several occasions, readers have been searching variations of “side chick consulting” and “side chick consultant” to land at my site.  I have written about side chicks and I am a Consultant at a Consulting Company so I can see how Google would make the connection.  This is not the issue…

The burning questions in my mind are, “Why are people searching for a side chick consultant?” and “What do they expect to gain from side chick consulting?”

After speaking with a few friends, here are a few things they think side chick consulting prospects are seeking:

  1. Advice on how to handle the holidays when their boo thang is with his main thang
  2. How do I avoid having feelings for a man that I know will never be mine
  3. Strategies to make him leave his main chick
  4. Tips to prevent him from cheating once you become the main chick
  5. What should I do if I want to confront his other woman

I’m not sure the real reason people are actively searching for a Side Chick Consultant.  If you have some ideas, please share them because I am uber curious!

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Money Talk with LaKesha on She’s Royal Radio

Money Talk with LaKesha on She’s Royal Radio

Join me and my girl, LaKisha Mitchell, for a blogtalkradio show on Tuesday, July 8th at 8:30pm CST/ 9:30pm EST.

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LaKisha Mitchell is the host of She’s Royal Radio, an online station that will will inspire, empower and embrace the black community by discussing topics that affect us. Somewhere in this journey called life WE failed to educate the younger generation about the values and morals we were taught. It’s time for our Kings & Queens to return to the throne.

On this episode, we will be discussing money management and tips for saving.

Do you have questions about your personal or business finances?  Call in 347-857-1258 and ask your questions on the air.

If you prefer to ask privately, inbox me on my Facebook page -> http://facebook.com/MsLaKeshaWomack and your identity will remain anonymous.

Don’t forget to order your copy of My Money Matters on amazon.com today!  We have versions for Kids, Teens and Adults so the whole family can learn better and do better!