LaKesha Womack

Can I really have it ALL? #SummerLoveSeries

One of the issues that I have been discussing with my girl friend is, what am I willing to give up for love.

Ugghhhh…

You all know that I believe that I can have it ALL, however “all” does not mean everything.  All, in my opinion, is deciding what are the two to four most important things in your life and pouring yourself into them.  I believe that many people have become disappointed in their own lives because their list is too long.  We are all humans with 24 hours in a day, there is only so much that you can accomplish no matter how much assistance you have.  And if you have no assistance, if every buck stops with you, then your list is probably going to be a little shorter.

Anyway, the past few years, I think I have been successful at having it all.  My priorities were – God (serving in ministry), family/friends (spending quality time with the people who I care about, actually being present in moments) and business (becoming a profitable entrepreneur).

Here is the problem – where does love fit in there?  Love, in the sense of loving a man, definitely can’t come before God.  Should love come before family and friends? We’ve all heard the stories of women who put their man before the people who had been there for them all of their life and when the relationship ended, their support team was gone.  Then there’s the business… Can love come before business?  My business is almost nonstop.  I’m always on my computer, on the phone, traveling, doing something and I love it.  It doesn’t seem like a chore for me, it feels like my professional purpose.  Am I ready to push that down on the list for love?

In the past, love has been on the bottom of my short list and honestly, that’s not working very well.  After all of those other obligations are filled, I have little left to give to love.  There is little time, there’s little energy… So to stop the insanity, something has to change, but what?

time for love

Twitter Chat Etiquette and #FF (Follow Friday) My Favorite TweetChats

Twitter Chats are a great way to engage with like-minded individuals and brands on social media.  

You may wonder why I am so excited about this… As much as I love being on Twitter, it can be difficult for me to really get to know the people in my network because there are thousands of them all speaking at once.  I also don’t have a lot of time to sit down and tweet up a conversation on a regular basis.  

Hosting and participating in Twitter chats is an opportunity for me to set aside time to have a chat/convo about a specific topic with other people who are also interested in that topic.  Much like how I used the Answers feature on LinkedIn, it is also a great way to show your expertise in an area.  Rather than telling people about what you know, you can demonstrate your knowledge in a relevant way.

Like most social conversations, there is a code of etiquette:

  1. Stick with the topic. It is annoying to the participants as well as the hosts when you get off topic using the chat hashtag. If you want to have a side conversation with someone in the chat, remove the hashtag.
  2. Follow the flow of the chat. If you arrive twenty or thirty minutes late, don’t start answering Q1. Jump into the conversation and start conversating in the flow. Not doing so is the equivalent of going to a cocktail party, walking up to a group of people and beginning your conversation with something they were talking about at the beginning of the hour. People are more likely to ignore what you are saying because they are trying to follow the real time conversation.  If you want to go back after the chat and respond to previous questions, feel free.  People often network after chats have ended and use it as an opportunity to further develop relationships.
  3. You don’t have to comment on every question. Only comment on the questions that you feel you can make a valuable contribution toward. You will gain more followers and credibility by offering insight versus general commentary.

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Side note: you will probably lose followers by participating in twitter chats because you may congest some people’s twitter stream with information that they may deem unnecessary. However, you will gain followers from the chat who are more likely to engage with you because you have established a common interest and credibility. Don’t get caught up playing the numbers game and worrying about your follower count.

Now for the fun part… My favorite twitter chats!

I participate in these chats on a regular basis because the moderators do a great job sharing the content of the participants, they chose interesting topics and the tweople participating in the chats have demonstrated knowledge of a variety of subjects so I look forward to their insight.

  • #L21Success – hosted by @TheLoop21 on Tuesdays at noon (CST), a variety of topics for entrepreneurs as well as conversations about current events and socially relevant issues 
  • #BrandChat – hosted by @BrandChat for #Brandidos on Wednesdays at 10am  (CST), questions are posted prior to each chat with a target on high level branding for corporations and organizations, great for those starting out and wanting to connect with experienced marketers as well as for those with experience to network and demonstrate their knowledge
  • #SoloPR – hosted by @SolorPR on Wednesday at noon (CST), an excellent forum and resource for those interested and involved in Public Relations, if you have PR questions, the groups continues to chat with the hashtag throughout the week
  • #SBCchat – hosted by @SixBrownChicks on Wednesdays at noon (CST), connect with women from everywhere to talk about everything! I am constantly amazed at how out of the box some of the chats are while not becoming overtly sexual or vulgar yet allowing women a forum to express real thoughts about real issues

What’s your favorite TweetChat?  Leave in the comments along with the host and time/date…

BlackCelebrityGiving.Com Launches National Cause Campaign To Benefit Homeless Children With Celebrity Ambassador Toya Wright

Black Celebrity GivingBlackCelebrityGiving.com announces their 2013 Spring Cause Campaign titled the Giving Boutique. With a mission of servicing homeless teens, tween, and in betweens – BlackCelebrityGiving.com (BCG) aims to raise enough exposure and resources to service homeless families on a national scale. Tying in Toya Wright (mother-wife-philanthropist) as the 2013 ambassador, BCG will launch a sixty day used clothing drive that will lead up to The Giving Boutique pop up store experience which will service homeless families.

BlackCelebrityGiving.Com (BCG) is a frontier in providing news, videos and photos of celebrity philanthropy, nonprofit organizations and causes that directly correlate with the black community. BCG’s goal is to enrich the lives of others through good news on black celebrity philanthropy, nonprofits, causes, grants and inform people on issues affecting the black community including: spotlights of black and missing people, available grants and tips on giving back.

“At BCG, we have dedicated months to developing our Spring Cause Campaign, The Giving Boutique, which focuses efforts on raising needed resources for homeless youth. We interviewed several homeless families specifically with teens and learned that receiving donations in garbage bags or grocery bags made them feel hopeless and unwanted. Upon this realization, The Giving Boutique was born. We thought how cool would it be if BCG could give these families and teens a real shopping experience, where items were not thrown on tables or in trash bags, but actually hung up, color coordinated, washed and even new,” stated BGC Founder Jasmine Crowe.

The Giving Boutique ‘s national initiative will be to collect new and gently used clothes at partnering on-site activation to support thousands of homeless youth that go without basic necessities on a daily basis. According to the National Center on Family Homelessness – One in 45 children experience homelessness in America each year. That’s over 1.6 million children. 42 percent are under the age of six, and a third of them are living with single mothers with chronic illnesses. Every night more than 200,000 children have no place to live and lack basic necessities such as food and clothing. Homeless children and youth face a number of problems. These include developmental problems, abuse and neglect, lack of effective education, food and clothing among others.

BCG’s Giving Boutique will provide a shopping experience that is unparalleled to anything these families have ever experienced before. Homeless families will be able to shop in a boutique pop-up shop with amenities including: food and beverage, friendly staff, fitting rooms, furniture and the overall boutique shopping aesthetic. The Giving Boutique will also feature an accessories counter, and a soap shop filled with donated items from beauty and hair brands. While the youth and their families shop, The Giving Boutique will play live music and provide tons of goodies creating an atmosphere filled with happiness as they shop to their hearts desire. All items will be completely free of charge.

How you can help!

The goal of the Giving Boutique is to collect 30,000 articles of clothing which will be used to set-up boutique pop-up shops in five select cities for homeless families to shop, additional items will be gift wrapped and sent to organizations around the country.  

We are currently working with partners nationwide to help us collect and/or clean clothing items and also assist us in finding families to be beneficiaries of the cause. We are excited to have partnered with Brenda Parson for the Charlotte, NC (and surrounding areas) efforts. Mrs. Parson, who is the Executive Director of Volunteer 2 Serve & Give will be hosting a clothing drive at Madison’s Coffee House 7878 Idlewild Rd. Indian Trail, NC 28079 Saturday, June 29, 2013 from 12PM-4PM. 

All details on the Giving Boutique Campaign are available at www.BlackCelebrityGiving.com/Giving-Boutique, here you will be able to grab badges for your website and get quick facts if you need them. Thank you again for your support of BCG, let’s collect some clothes and serve homeless families abundantly this summer!

If loving you is all that I have to do…

It feels like love is in the air…

love in the sand

For some reason, I can hear Mary J. Blige singing in my ear -

If loving you is all that I have to do

I don’t want to do anything else

Ohhhh Mary…

I remember those euphoric days where you fell in love with someone and all you wanted to do was spend time with them, talk to them, just be in their presence *sigh*

Here’s my problem and you can tell me what you think…

I want to be in love and spend all of the time necessary to get to know the person.  I actually want to fall head over heels in love with someone who comes in my life and sweeps me off my feet – not just sexually but someone who makes love to my mind with insightful conversation, someone who makes me laugh, someone who makes me light up when I see their name pop up on my caller id… Someone that is emotionally available to love me the way a woman wants to be loved in a relationship… Yeah, I want that fairy tale kinda love that climaxes with him getting down on one knee with a Tacori ring causing tears of joy to stream down my face.

What’s the problem, I’m sure you’re wondering…

The problem… I am not sure that I really believe that all of that is possible. It feels weird saying that out loud (or typing it) because it sounds like I’ve given up on love and honestly, sometimes I think I have.

It’s not that I don’t have any qualified prospects but I wonder if I really have the time for love.  I always say that you make time for what’s important to you and when I look at my calendar, I don’t see very much time for love penciled in.  I was talking to a guy friend about “why I’m still single” and he was very frank with me – “Kesha, I think you’re single by choice, I don’t hear you ever talk about going anywhere or doing anything to meet any guys.” O_o  He was right.

I find myself settling for convenient situations but not putting as much effort into having the dream relationship as I put into my Consulting business or even a similar effort that I put into writing a book.  Its like I work for everything that I want but when it comes to love, I think I imagine that it will just happen.  How insane! Expecting a different result, doing the same thing…

What do you think?

Have I given up on love?  Am I really too busy for love?  Or is my situation typical?  I mean I can’t be the only woman lusting for the fairy tale even though I know that loving him is NOT all that I have to do – I have a business, a kid, on several boards, traveling to speak, the list goes on and on…

That leads to the next question that we will explore…

Am I going to have to give up something to get what I want?  Is it possible for me to have it all?

Success Secrets from Producer, Entrepreneur & Consultant Arinze

 We all have the same 24 hours in a day but some seem to do more with theirs than others.  Our guest this week is a hip-hop producer, artist, law & business consultant as well as restaurant co-owner.  Listen to our interview with Arinze to find out how he stepped out on faith to make his dreams a reality.

Arinze

Success Secrets from Producer, Entrepreneur & Consultant Arinze.

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