The lost art of dating
I envy people from past generations that enjoyed going out on dates. It seems that dating has become a lost art. The whole courting process seems so romantic yet in our society it seems like the process has become rushed.
I may be idealizing the process but compared to what is available today, I think I would have liked it. I imagine meeting a guy, him coming up to me and introducing himself to me by saying something like, “Hi! My name is _____. What is your name?” I can really do without the “Hey, shawty! What yo name is?”
I then imagine us having a brief conversation about something intellectual rather than him visually checking me out from head to toe. Once we establish that there is a basis for further communication, we would make plans to enjoy a meal together and possibly some activity like bowling or a movie. At the end of this event, there would be no sex, no kissing and no trying to get me back to his place. It seems like guys think because we have one conversation and we don’t argue or kill each other, then we are a match – not necessarily made in heaven but suitable for the evening. Thanks, but no thanks!
I envision this dating process happening over the course of some months before we begin a discussion about taking it to the next level. This next level could involve any number of things but the point is for us to be able to enjoy the process of getting to know one another before we go there.
My minister asked a question in bible study that involved a circumstance where the husband and wife disagreed on something very fundamental and what they should do it. The hypothetical disagreement reminded me of the importance of dating. It seems that some guys view dating as a woman trying to spend all his money while some women see it as an opporutnity to try out all of the new restaurants. I think dating is a chance for two people who are interested in each other to learn more about each other and establish a foundation for their future.
Leave me a comment about your idea of a perfect date or let me know if you think dating still exists.