I whisper sweet nothings in his ear at night while he sleeps

I told one of my friends about this and it cracked her up.  Since my son was a baby, I have been brainwashing him and I think it’s working.

At night while he is sleeping, I whisper positive affirmations into his ear.  I tell him how much I love him, I tell him how wonderful he is, I tell him how proud of him I am and I even tell him that he is the best ever.  Why, you might ask?  Because those are the thoughts I want guiding him in his self conscious.  I don’t want him to be filled with self doubt and wonder about his place in the world.  Kids and young men have a tough time in this world because they feel like no one understands them and they don’t understand their value in this world.  This is my attempt at minimizing, not eliminating, but trying to reduce that anxiety and give him the wings to soar.

For a while I wasn’t sure if this was working but it was making me feel good as a mother to have a chance to express my feelings to a busy little boy.  One day, I was taking a nap and was awaken by a hand on my cheek.  I didn’t immediately open my eyes because I also heard a little voice whispering in my ear.  It was my son.  He was stroking my cheek and telling me how proud of me he was and how much he loved me.

I encourage every parent to try this technique.  Children are so busy and their minds are so active while they are awake.  During their busy little days, they are moving from one activity/thought to another at lightning speed.  They are trying to figure the world out and seeking their place in our society.  These moments of rest are the ideal opportunities to start them on the path of positive affirmations.  As they get older, those positive thoughts will continue to resonate in the back of their mind and serve as their wings of confidence.

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5 thoughts on “I whisper sweet nothings in his ear at night while he sleeps

  1. Kristena says:

    Girl I love the postive reinforcement, it’s always good to let your children know that they are loved. If you don’t let children know that they are loved at home then they will go looking for it in all the wrong places. So I say you have done a wonderful job! Plus, because I know you little angel I just want to say he is outstanding young man and the world doesn’t know what is about to hit them!!!!!!

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    • LOL! and you know how he feels about you. I think you are a great mother too. Your daughter is so lucky to have someone dedicated to keeping her active in positive activities and being there to support her :)

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  2. Maia Königsmühle says:

    What a great idea! My son is three and so will still let me tell him these sort of things during the day, but I’ll definitely tuck away this advice for when he’s older and busier or in an “ah Mom!” stage.

    I love your description of your son stroking your face and speaking the same positive words back to you. Mine has blown me away with this sort of behaviour and it does my heart good. Clearly, my words of love and affirmation are having an impact. My little guy is awoken every morning with kisses and whispers in his ear like, “precious bear, I love you!” and he’ll often stroke my face or his Dad’s and tell us we’re precious.

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    • I am a firm believer that our thoughts manifest into our reality and I love that you and husband practice this with your son. When kids are surrounded by negative vibes they have a negative outlook on life. Knowing that you are having a positive impact on your child, just by them repeating some of things that you tell, makes being a parent that much more rewarding.

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