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It takes a man to be a father…

I know some of the women won’t agree with me on this but even as single moms we can’t take the place of a father in our kids lives…
How do I know?
No matter how much my mom did for my brother whose father was killed before he was born; my brother still longs for the love of his dad…
Even my son has moments when no matter how much I’m doing with him, for him; he just wants his dad…
Today I honor all of the men who are playing the role of a father in the lives of their children and/or someone else. It takes a man to be a father.

[GUEST POST] 7 Ways Working Moms Can Take Care of Themselves

Working moms need to take care of themselves, even though sometimes it seems quite impossible. Even if it means you have to give up a bit of money or leave your kids in front of the TV for a half hour, it will eliminate stress and help your health in the long run!

Here are some wonderful ways for working moms to take a load off…

Hot Baths

Nothing feels better than to sink into a hot bubble bath to release stress and tension. Not only is the hot water calming, but add in a nice bath pillow to help you relax. Lay your head back, close your eyes and sink into the comfort of your own tub. Adding a nice candle and book to read will help you relax even more and enjoy some time just for you.

Eat Well

Most working moms don’t eat well enough. It seems that we are always on the run and grabbing a piece of fruit or an order of fries to go does the trick. If you work harder to eat three good meals a day, comprised of whole foods, you will feel much better.

Exercise

As much as you feel exhausted when you get home from a long day’s work, find some time to get out and take a 20 minute walk or pop in a 30 minute exercise video. It will help you feel much better and relieve a lot of stress at the end of a tough day. Some yoga can help you unwind AND give you more energy!

Live it Up

Do what you can to look and feel your best. Get a new haircut or change the color. Wear the nicest clothes you can afford and ones you have been hoping to have. You deserve that nice outfit! Go out and have a spa day for you. Get a massage! Even one day of pure ecstasy can help for a month.

Blessings

Count your blessings. Make a list of all the things you feel gratitude for. Think about what you are grateful for and have your kids make the same type of list. It will make you feel better to see all the things you really do have in your life and to know that your kids are happy and thankful too.

Get Help

You should never feel obligated to do everything yourself. Get some family and friends to help. Have a babysitter come in every now and again to get out for a few hours. Trade off babysitting evenings with the neighbor. Let someone help you with the yard work or go to the grocery store for you. You will find that you feel better and that people enjoy being needed! As long as you’re willing to help out with something in return, you’re golden!

Expectations

Don’t expect so much. Lower those expectations of yourself and of your kids. You don’t always have to be that super mom person and they don’t always have to be those super kids. Cut some slack for all of you and watch how much simpler life can be without such high expectations.

All working moms need a break now and again. The key is taking that break and doing something special for yourself!

Kris Paige writes about finance, parenting and saving money at www.creditscore.net.

[FREE EBOOK] In the Kitchen with Kesha

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers!!

It doesn’t matter if you are a mother because you have given birth or a mother because you have an emotional bond with a child in your life.  All women were created with the intention of reproducing life.  This is not the time to debate who, what, when or why we are or are not mothers.

Let us celebrate all women!

As a busy mom trying to balance my career with my personal and spiritual endeavors; cooking sometimes presents a challenge in my life.  But I love food and I don’t like eating out a lot.  As my mother’s day gift to you, I am sharing my ten favorite recipes and a few tips that I have learned along the way while in the kitchen.

Enjoy!

[FREE EBOOK] In the Kitchen with Kesha

Would you like to share your favorite recipe?  Email me contact(at)LaKeshaWomack(dot)com and your recipe could be featured on this site under Sunday Cooking.

How do your children behave?

This is a quick post…
I am intrigued when I see parents in public trying to make their children behave…
Here’s a quick tip – if you want your children to behave in public, you need to make them behave at home.
Many times parents wait until they get in public to try to correct their child’s behavior but the kid is only doing the things that you allow them to do any other time. Parents need to set a standard of behavior, at home and in public, and make it clear what you will and will not accept from them.

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Are you a lazy parent?

For  some people, if they are honest with themselves, the answer is yes…

Parenting is hard.  Anyone who tells you differently… Well, let’s just say for me parenting is hard.  Not because I don’t love my son but because taking care of him is more than a full-time job, it’s a lifetime of responsibility.  From the time I first knew I was pregnant until the day one of us passes away, I will be responsible for him.  Of course, that responsibility will gradually decrease as he gets older (hopefully) but I will always feel some level of accountability to be there for him.

Some parents, I have observed, don’t seem to take parenting that seriously.  They are content to allow others to do the bulk of the work – a day care center, the school system, other family members… I even had a lady who rents fun jumps tell me about the parents who bring their kids and leave them for hours without coming back to check on them.

Lazy parenting also manifests as…

“Not right now…”

“I don’t feel like it…”

“Just go somewhere and play…”

I will admit that I am guilty of uttering those phrases sometimes and I have to catch myself and be sure that I am making time for my son.  I realize that he won’t always have time for me so while he does, I need to take advantage of it.  That doesn’t mean that I drop everything I am doing when he beckons but it does mean that I…

  • look him in the eye when he’s talking to me so that he knows he has my attention
  • review his homework, everything in his backpack and ask questions about school every night to be sure I know what’s going on with him
  • try to find activities that we both enjoy – UNO, golf, reading – so that it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice when he wants to “do stuff”
  • plan dates for the two of us to hang out or go out to dinner  because I want him to know what quality time really means
  • give him more experiences than stuff… when choosing between a hundred-dollar pair of sneakers and a trip to the museum, I am sure you know which we choose
  • saving and planning for his future, yes… that is an important component of not being a lazy parent, set your kids up for success instead of failing to plan and making them suffer the consequences later in life
  • most importantly, let him win, I don’t think we spend enough time teaching our kids what it feels like to be victorious, although I can beat him in almost anything that we play, there is nothing like the excitement that I see on his face when he has won a game of UNO or hit the ball a little further than me on the golf course

Like I said, parenting isn’t easy for most of us but we owe it to our kids to put in the work to help them become well-adjusted adults.  There is not instruction manual for raising kids so we all do the best we can and that’s what our kids deserve… our best, even on our worst days.

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