LaKesha Womack

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Why not you?

Who are you not to be disappointed?  What makes you so special that life should spare you of a few bumps and bruises?  What makes it ok for you to expect more than you give?

Most of us believe that we deserve a wonderful life and that nothing bad should ever befall us.  Why not you?

Is there someone more deserving of heartache than you?  Is there someone who should have the monopoly on pain?

Our strife in life is what contributes to our strength.  If we are never tested then we will not know what we were capable of enduring.  It is through the rigorous climb to the top of the mountain that we are truly able to enjoy the view.

Before you complain about anything or anyone… ask yourself, “Why not me?”

Catch the vision

Close your eyes…

Open your mind…

What do you see?

Clear your head of all of the clutter… all of the things that you need to do… all of the things that you have done… all of the things that you will do as soon as you open your eyes…

Clear your mind and take a deep breath…

Now ask yourself the following questions…

Who am I?

What image comes into your head, not what words do you think of but what do you see? Who is the person standing in the mirror inside of your head?

Who do I want to be?

Don’t think about your profession or your next job but think about the person that you want to be, the characteristics that are important to you, that you want others to see.

What do I want to do?

Again, forget about jobs and making money, what activities in your life bring you joy?  What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?

So often we find ourselves out of line with our true purpose and not living our passion because we can’t see ourselves clearly therefore we can’t see what is ahead of us.  How often do you feel out of whack, you know, like something just isn’t right?  I’ve felt that way before.  I couldn’t really put my finger on what was wrong but I just didn’t feel like myself.  I didn’t feel like I was moving forward or doing what I was supposed to be doing.

Demands are placed on your life everyday by outside sources – your family, friends, job, church, and the list goes on and on.  While trying to satisfy these obligations, it can become easy to get sidetracked and to no longer be living your purpose or passion rather trying to make it to the next day.

The question then becomes, how do you get it back together? How do you get back on track?  In order to figure out who you are and where you are supposed to be going, you have to get in tune with yourself.  If you find yourself feeling lost or ungrounded, that simply means that you have stopped listening to yourself.  You have lost your inner voice.

Have you ever noticed how calm and centered people are who pray a lot, practice yoga or meditate tend to be?  It is not a coincidence.  These activities are ways to still your mind and create an alignment between your thoughts and actions.  When you spend your life in a frenzy moving from one thing to the next without taking a breath, it is easy to get off of your natural track and find yourself feeling like you are in a whirlwind.

Over the past few months, I was in this vicious cycle of trying to be everything to everyone.  I would stay in prayer and kept my relationship with God but even in church I was whipping out post it notes and making lists of things that I needed to do once the service was over or things that needed to be added to my list for the following week.  I would wake up in the morning and start working and often not take a break for lunch because I had so much to do.  A point came where I was forced to slow down and I began to listen to my own voice again and realized that a  lot of the things that kept me so busy were not a part of my purpose.

How do you get off the rollercoaster and realign yourself with your passion and passion.  Start at the beginning of this blog.  Close your eyes, clear your mind and spend some time thinking about who you are, who you want to be and what you want to do.  Once you open your eyes, begin to do the work to make the vision in your head a reality in your life.

It’s a new season

One of the joys of living in the south is being able to experience all four of the seasons.  Our winters are mild compared to those of our northern neighbors but we more than make up for it with the scorching summers.  However, this is my favorite time of the year because the leaves begin to change and the air begins to cool.

As the seasons change, it often causes you to pause to reflect on some changes that can be made in your life.  I can’t believe that it was just a year ago that I began this blog and jumped head first into social networking.  I didn’t follow my own advice and took on the mantra that I could do it all.  You know the caveat to my “You Can Have It All” motto… you CAN have it all but you have to choose what all means, all should not be taken literally.

I didn’t do that.  At the time I was very involved in my local community, holding numerous offices and being a member of several organizations; I then began to blog everyday, thought I was ready for a relationship that would lead to marriage, was still running two companies, offering myself for public speaking engagements and preparing to begin a multi-state ministry.  Just looking back over the list that doesn’t even cover all of my obligations, I should have seen that I was headed for a disaster.  No one person can handle all of that responsibility in addition to being a single mother and attempting to live some semblance of a life.  Yep, I was on a collision course for disaster because one my primary triggers for an increased glucose level is stress.

By now, you may be asking yourself, “What was she thinking?”  Honestly, I wasn’t thinking.  I was so busy doing and trying to make a difference in the lives of those around me that I didn’t think about myself or what I wanted.  On a few occasions when I came up for air, I would ask, “Why am I doing all of this? What am I trying to accomplish or prove?”  Yes, it is nice for people to consider me an inspiration or to be thought of as a role model but couldn’t I attain that without doing so much?

My biggest fear was letting those around me down.  Once again, I wasn’t following my own advice.  You will never please everyone and sometimes you won’t please anyone.  Our purpose in this world should be to live a life that is pleasing to God.  Was my hyperactivity getting me any closer to heaven?  Some will argue yes because I was killing myself, literally, and fast tracking my death.  Guess what?  Life will go on with or without me but I hope to stick with it for a little while longer.

It’s a new season and I have renewed priorities.  I may not blog everyday and I’m ok with that.  I may not complete my next book by the end of the year but that’s not a big deal.  I won’t be aspiring to leadership positions in many organizations because I want to focus on my ministry.  It’s a new season and I had to make some changes.  Working from the time I wake up until I almost pass out in front of my laptop is no longer the life for me.  I’m over being stressed out because of lengthy to do lists or living outside of my passion and purpose.

When my life is over, I pray that my works will speak for the type of life I wanted to live.  I pray that I will have lived the purpose that was intended for me but I am one person and I have the same 24 hours as everyone else.  At one time, I thought that I should do as much as I could in those 24 hours but now I realize that my health is more important than wealth and my true friends understand rather than feel disappointed.  Not everyone understands the amount of self-imposed stress I was under  but I could rarely relax and almost always felt anxious about the things that I couldn’t get accomplished.

What’s next?

As I move into my new season, I will be making a few changes and while continuing to work on having it all…

  • Personally: I want to have a successful relationship; I want to devote the amount of time to make someone else feel as special as I want them to make me feel; I want to take more personal trip than for business; I want to take some cooking classes and play golf regularly
  • Professionally: I will be establishing a faith-based business consulting firm that offers business plan and marketing plan writing services as well as one-on-one consultations; my next book will probably be released around the beginning of next year when I continue my national book tour; I will continue to speak at professional, social and religious events
  • Spiritually: I am so excited about the future of my ministry and look forward to continuing to represent the young adults in my denomination and ensure we have a voice in the future of our church

There will come a time in your life for the seasons to change.  It will be a time for you to shed some leaves in order for new ones to grow.  It may get cold and dreary after a while but rest assured that spring is around the corner.  God will never to bring you to something that you don’t have the strength to make it through.  I went through so many emotions to arrive at these 1,000 words but to God be the glory because I feel like I am living with a renewed energy and focus.

It’s a new season and I am happy for the change!

 

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